What To Expect From Me

•02.09.2011 • Leave a Comment

Here is what you can expect from me, in reading this blog of mine…

My Self: I experience the world as a white, cisgender, queer, polyamorous, fat, currently-able-bodied, non-neurotypical, pagan feminist woman.  This is my matrix of privileges and oppressions.  I am privileged in being white, cis, and able-bodied.  I am lacking privilege in being queer, polyamorous, fat, non-Christian (and especially by being a Witch), non-neurotypical, and a woman.  Additionally, at the current time I experience the world as one in the lower-middle-class economic strata.  This means I won’t be reviewing or hawking expensive personal growth products, because I can’t afford them, and I don’t want to assume that my readers can, either.  If you can, that’s great, and there are plenty of people who do those kinds of reviews.  Think of me as the poor woman’s conscious growth advisor.  I don’t plan on offering growth products or coaching or anything, but if I ever do, please call me on it if I start pricing myself out of range for the “average person”.

This also means I will view and sometimes explain things through a feminist, social-justice-consciousness-oriented lens.  I’ll do my best to provide explanatory links for concepts the average person won’t know, but this blog is not for those issues, so I won’t provide much explanation myself.

My influences: You will see references to concepts I have picked up from other people a lot.  Most often those references will be to things I learned from Havi Brooks of The Fluent Self, or Pace and Kyeli of Connection Revolution.  I talk about (and to!) my monsters, about my stuff (shorthand for one’s issues, triggers, fears, etc.  You know.  Stuff.), about shoes and Very Personal Ads and patterns and my Book of Me and my Dammit List.  I believe that connection and growth is the way to save the world.  I’ll be honest, I have a gigantic intellectual crush on Havi, so I will use a lot of her concepts and strategies and techniques and stuff.  Also, I’m way into her whole meeting-yourself-where-you-are no-judgments be-kind-to-yourself attitude.  I’m not very good at it yet, but I’m getting there.  It’s certainly helping things move along much faster and smoother than the whole self-mastery, just-discipline-yourself-into-doing-it, which is really all the encouragement I need to keep dancing down this path.

And my commitment to you is this: honesty, openness, authenticity.  To offer up my experience, and explain my process, in the hopes that it might be helpful to someone, somewhere out there.  What works for me may not work for you.  But then again, it may.

So what do you have to lose by trying?



•02.09.2011 • Leave a Comment

Imagine A Woman, by Patricia Lynn Reilly

Imagine a woman who believes it is right and good she is woman.  A woman who honors her experience and tells her stories.  Who refuses to carry the sins of others within her body and life.

Imagine a woman who has acknowledged the past’s influence on the present.  A woman who has walked through her past.  Who has healed into the present.

Imagine a woman in love with her own body.  A woman who believes her body is enough, just as it is.  Who celebrates her body’s rhythms and cycles as an exquisite resource.

Imagine a woman who embraces her sexuality as her own.  A woman who delights in pleasuring herself.  Who experiences her erotic sensations without shame or guilt.

Imagine a woman who honors the body of the Goddess in her changing body.  A woman who celebrates the accumulation of her years and her wisdom.  Who refuses to use her precious life-energy disguising the changes in her body and life.

Imagine a woman who has access to the full range of human emotion.  A woman who expresses her feelings clearly and directly.  Who allows them to pass through her as gracefully as a breath.

Imagine a woman who tells the truth.  A woman who trusts her experience of the world and expresses it.  Who refuses to defer to the thoughts, perceptions, and responses of others.

Imagine a woman who follows her creative impulses.  A woman who produces original creations.  Who refuses to color inside someone else’s lines.

Imagine a woman who names her own gods.  A woman who imagines the divine in her image and likeness.  Who designs a personal spirituality to inform her daily life.

Imagine a woman who refuses to surrender to gods, gurus, and higher powers.  A woman who has descended into her own inner life.  Who asserts her will in harmony with its impulses and instincts.

Imagine a woman who is interested in her own life.  A woman who embraces her life as teacher, healer, and challenge.  Who is grateful for the ordinary moments of beauty and grace.

Imagine a woman who authors her own life.  A woman who trusts her inner sense of what is right for her.  Who refuses to twist her life out of shape to meet the expectations of others.

Imagine a woman who participates in her own life. A woman who meets each challenge with creativity.  Who takes action on her own behalf with clarity and strength.

Imagine a woman who has crafted a fully formed solitude.  A woman who is available to herself.  Who chooses friends and lovers with the capacity to respect her solitude.

Imagine a woman who refuses to diminish her life so others will feel better.  A woman who brings the fullness of her years, experience, and wisdom into each relationship.
Who expects others to be challenged and blessed by her presence in their lives.

Imagine a woman who assumes equality in her relationships.  A woman who no longer believes she is inferior to men and in need of their salvation.  Who has taken her rightful place beside them in the human community.

Imagine a woman who refuses to use her precious life-energy managing crisis and conflict.  A woman whose relationships deepen in satisfaction and contentment without depleting her.  Who chooses friends and lovers with the necessary skills to navigate thorough the challenges of life.

Imagine a woman who values the women in her life.  A woman who sits in circles of women.  Who is reminded of the truth about herself when she forgets.

Imagine a woman who has relinquished the desire for intellectual safety and approval.  A woman who makes a powerful statement with every word she speaks, every action she takes.  Who asserts to herself the right to reorder the world. Imagine a woman who has grown in knowledge and love of herself.

A woman who has vowed faithfulness to her own life and capacities. Who remains loyal to herself.

Regardless, Imagine yourself as this woman.